You change when you travel – And that’s a good thing!

change when you travel

Hey Guys and Gals, it’s Monday and melting hot with 33 degrees and 75% humitity in Maling Kung Fu School. Because it is so hot I went through some of my old drafts and look at that little gem I found. (To be honest I just couldn’t come up with anything creative today, I have the feeling my brain melted, so might as well make use of forgotten posts 😉 )

 

Nobody likes to hear it…but you do change when you travel.

This issue about how you change when you travel has been spooking around my head for a long time now and let’s get some facts straight here, because some things are just unavoidable, which you will notice after your solo journey.

The people at home actually stay the same more or less. It is you that is different when you come back. If that is now a good thing or a bad, that is up to you to decide.

Everybody changes as time passes, but when you travel, changes comes much faster. Click To Tweet

You will learn to decide what you want and what you don’t want and you will learn to act upon it, because on the road you have to stand up for what you want all by yourself, nobody there to make it easy for you.

Here I am at a temple in Penang, after the public bus broke down somewhere in the middle of nowhere and I had to figure out which other buses went there, got another number, which stopped somewhere else and had to figure out how to get to the stupid temple...but that view was definitly worth all the trouble =) - Persitency pays of and sometimes adventures make a story much more interesting^^
Here I am at a temple in Penang, after the public bus broke down somewhere in the middle of nowhere and I had to figure out which other buses went there, got another number, which stopped somewhere else and had to figure out how to get to the stupid temple…but that view was definitly worth all the trouble =) – Persitency pays of and sometimes adventures make a story much more interesting^^

You get more confident, whether introvert or extrovert, you know how to handle a crisis, where to go when and how to stay save. You learn to haggle, be tough and how to make new friends with about anybody.

Imagine that suddenly the timid little girl comes back and voices straightforward her opinions.That could be a tad of a blow for friends and family.

You suddenly talk about topics like best flight deals, cheapest transport, most amazing
beaches…you talk about places other don’t even dream about and you are itching to go back. The Travel bug got you.

You love the road and the road loves you.

And you are driving others insane with that, because you are the mirror to their settled
and stable life. You are suddenly not one of them, but the opposite.  Some won’t understand you anymore, others will envy you and just a small percentage will be able to accept the new you.

Stranded at an island over 1 hour away by speedboat from the mainland. No ATM on the Island and time pressure to catch the boat...lesson: One can enjoy paradise also with Cup Noodles and Cheap Mega Dorm...and also when you really need it there is always an Angel who pays for your Barbeque because they know how it is to be stranded without money...(Big thanks to the crayz lady from England )
Stranded at an island over 1 hour away by speedboat from the mainland. No ATM on the Island and time pressure to catch the boat…lesson: One can enjoy paradise also with Cup Noodles and Cheap Mega Dorm…and also when you really need it there is always an Angel who invites you to a Barbeque because they know how it is to be stranded without money…(Big thanks to the crayz lady from England )

It’s the cold, ugly truth.

After you have been traveling for a while, your friends will move on.

You changed and not all can deal with that and also you have been away. While you travel your life is on a standstill, but they are moving on. You’re soul changed, but your life is at the same point when you left. For them there soul stays the same, changing through time, but there actual life evolves. They get a new social life, keep on climbing the career latter, get married, build houses.

When you return they might be on a complete different stage then you are and you are maybe not anymore what they are looking for as a friend.

Sure there are always some you know you always can go back to, they are your real friends.

The ones you can call after a year and that will make time for you and when you meet up everything is as if you have never been away.

But there are also those that you meet again and there is an awkward silence. The connection is lost.

But that is good this way, even if it hurts at first.

Friends are a part of your life, they come and go. But every friendship has to be nourished. Some more, some less.

As a traveller you have to find those friends that don’t need a constant update, those that are fine if you change, because they know no matter how much you change, inside you are still the same, just a tad more sassy and crazier.

Find the once that appreciate you, because you are a traveler.

The others treasure as long as you have them, and let them go when the time comes.

The changes you will make will shape you and the friends you make will teach you new ways of life. Find the ones that appreciate your changes and welcome your soul back, no matter how long you have been gone.

Conquering your fears. I know it is a tiny snake, but gosh those freak me out...Still did it, still don't like them...Lesson: If there is a possibility grab it, even if it is just to not have to ask you later: What if?
Conquering your fears. I know it is a tiny snake, but gosh those freak me out…Still did it, still don’t like them…Lesson: If there is a possibility grab it, even if it is just to not have to ask you later: What if?

Never ever change back to what you where before, simply because of the people around you pressuring you (assuming you didn’t turn into a complete dick head). -You were so cute and we always had to protect you, -since when do you know everything better, – why do you suddenly put yourself so much out there…blablablablabla…

You will find your Tribe. Your connections. I have now friends I treasure in many countries. And I know if I am in the area, all I need to do is to call and I will have a great time.

As if I never left 😉

 

28 comments

  1. Paola Reply

    I completely agree: travel makes you changing. The way of seeing things, the way of getting in contact with people and even the way of behaving is different! And I love this!

  2. Alberto C. Reply

    You’re so right. Travelling is always a great experience that teaches you so much, not only about life, but also about yourself!

  3. mark and kate Reply

    Oh yeah, I wholeheartedly agree! Travel changes a person and the changes differ from person to person. Whatever the changes are, the experiences and the friendship cultivated along the way is what makes it all worthwhile, I think.

  4. Joanna Reply

    I have noticed that since I started traveling heavy duty, I am more open minded and more understanding. I just love being on the road and yes, I agree with you, I am scared of snakes but in Vietnam, I did hold one for a photo (well, the tail of it anyway).

  5. Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life Reply

    I agree with you completely and I love how this is written, very open and thoughtful. I changed a lot through travel and I believe each country or city the potential to change you in a different way if you are open to it.

  6. Samantha Reply

    I totally agree with your statement that you change when you travel. Another saying is when you live in a different country from the one you grew up in, you change as well. You don’t see the world like you used to.

  7. Jenn Reply

    I am not even sure it is possible to change back once you’ve been infected with the travel bug. My main problem with my friends is not that they see how I’ve changed, is that they don’t understand how I don’t want to settle, I don’t need to find someone else who holds me back… At some point you just accept that they will keep on thinking about you like the weirdo, but also, you stop caring..!

  8. shounak Reply

    Yes ! travel makes your mind become broader and get rid of your fears. And most of all try out all kinds of food and meet all kinds of people. Start appreciating things and people that are different from you

  9. Sona Sethi Reply

    Hey Sabine, very interesting post. Yes, holding a snake can be quite scary, I am yet to try that one. Haven’t really had the heart to try it in some of the places I have been to.

  10. Subhadrika Reply

    I could not have agreed more when you say that you change when you travel. I have changed a lot after I started to travel. In fact solo travelling has made me bolder, free and independent.

  11. Inka Reply

    I totally understand every world that you wrote. A lot of people don’t understand the lifestyle you are living, trying to pressure you into a lifestyle that is not yours. Ask questions like when are you getting a real job, but even when you do the travel bug has bitten, and you are just planning your next destination.

  12. Tom Reply

    You will find your tribe. I like that.
    Yes, we do all change when we travel, and that is why we should all travel. As one writer put it, with some it broadens their minds; with other, it only broadens their shoulders.

  13. Indrani Reply

    I agree travel changes us and our perspective towards life! It makes us more wiser in many ways. Good take on travel!

  14. Star Lengas Reply

    I began traveling in my early 20s and whenever I went home, I tried to simplify my experiences for others, but soon I realized — that its okay to change and I shouldn’t hide my growth. This is a beautiful post and a great reminder to continually evolve.

  15. Judson L Moore Reply

    Not only do you change when you travel, but you also (I believe) change for the better! I wish that everyone had to travel abroad at least once, especially while young, because the change that happens when you experience another culture is the type of change that can best bring about world peace and understanding. To a brighter tomorrow!

  16. Evanne Reply

    So true! Traveling helps you grow in lots of ways and changes you for the better

  17. Rashmi and Chalukya Reply

    Loved reading this post! Of course, travelling changes us as a person and definitely for good and betterment. It is also true that people from our non travel life find it difficult to accept our new lifestyle but who cares; Its our life and we are out to seek something we love if someone cannot understand that then time to move on.

  18. Christina Reply

    I definitely agree that traveling changes a person. Traveling is not for everyone but when you find someone that can enjoy it with you, it is definitely life changing.

  19. Tae Reply

    This is all so true! Change is a good thing 🙂 and I love traveling because of the confidence of knowing that you can go anywhere and be fine 🙂

  20. Stella the Travelerette Reply

    I agree that travel changes you. I used to be afraid to talk to strangers before I started traveling. I’m still pretty introverted but now I don’t feel scared to talk to new people and I’m a lot more confident. I do feel lucky to have friends back home that support me though!

  21. Blair Villanueva Reply

    What a great post! I do agree that when people starts to travel, there are things in your life really changes – the way you see things, the way you give reasons for everything, the way we decide and talk, and we become more open-minded, and patient.

  22. Veronica Reply

    I agree with you! I have also felt changes that happened to me after my first trip to Asia, then after the second trip to Asia. And they keep happening. And I would never trade these changes and experiences for anything else.

  23. Alina Popescu Reply

    I do believe people grow up and grow apart from their usual circles with or without travel. But as you said, travel when it’s more than a week, tends to make changes happen faster. Maybe it’s because you have time to evaluate your life. Maybe it’s because you learn from new people and situations. or maybe you’re detached enough to see what you need to move away from. Still, change is not always such a bad thing. And from what I can tell, true, lasting connections survive travel, moves to other cities, and quite a lot of stress.

  24. Tamshuk Reply

    Wonderful post.
    As a long term traveler who just got back home, I can totally relate to this article.
    It takes a lot to get adjusted to. How travel changes us and our views about things around.

  25. Ami Reply

    I also think that you become a lot more tolerant and open to change and diverse ideas. It is evident even in your post and for me, that is the best change. 🙂

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