Hey Guys and Gals, it’s Monday and melting hot with 33 degrees and 75% humitity in Maling Kung Fu School. Because it is so hot I went through some of my old drafts and look at that little gem I found. (To be honest I just couldn’t come up with anything creative today, I have the feeling my brain melted, so might as well make use of forgotten posts 😉 )
Nobody likes to hear it…but you do change when you travel.
This issue about how you change when you travel has been spooking around my head for a long time now and let’s get some facts straight here, because some things are just unavoidable, which you will notice after your solo journey.
The people at home actually stay the same more or less. It is you that is different when you come back. If that is now a good thing or a bad, that is up to you to decide.Everybody changes as time passes, but when you travel, changes comes much faster. Click To Tweet
You will learn to decide what you want and what you don’t want and you will learn to act upon it, because on the road you have to stand up for what you want all by yourself, nobody there to make it easy for you.
You get more confident, whether introvert or extrovert, you know how to handle a crisis, where to go when and how to stay save. You learn to haggle, be tough and how to make new friends with about anybody.
Imagine that suddenly the timid little girl comes back and voices straightforward her opinions.That could be a tad of a blow for friends and family.
You suddenly talk about topics like best flight deals, cheapest transport, most amazing
beaches…you talk about places other don’t even dream about and you are itching to go back. The Travel bug got you.
You love the road and the road loves you.
And you are driving others insane with that, because you are the mirror to their settled
and stable life. You are suddenly not one of them, but the opposite. Some won’t understand you anymore, others will envy you and just a small percentage will be able to accept the new you.
It’s the cold, ugly truth.
After you have been traveling for a while, your friends will move on.
You changed and not all can deal with that and also you have been away. While you travel your life is on a standstill, but they are moving on. You’re soul changed, but your life is at the same point when you left. For them there soul stays the same, changing through time, but there actual life evolves. They get a new social life, keep on climbing the career latter, get married, build houses.
When you return they might be on a complete different stage then you are and you are maybe not anymore what they are looking for as a friend.
Sure there are always some you know you always can go back to, they are your real friends.
The ones you can call after a year and that will make time for you and when you meet up everything is as if you have never been away.
But there are also those that you meet again and there is an awkward silence. The connection is lost.
But that is good this way, even if it hurts at first.
Friends are a part of your life, they come and go. But every friendship has to be nourished. Some more, some less.
As a traveller you have to find those friends that don’t need a constant update, those that are fine if you change, because they know no matter how much you change, inside you are still the same, just a tad more sassy and crazier.
Find the once that appreciate you, because you are a traveler.
The others treasure as long as you have them, and let them go when the time comes.
The changes you will make will shape you and the friends you make will teach you new ways of life. Find the ones that appreciate your changes and welcome your soul back, no matter how long you have been gone.
Never ever change back to what you where before, simply because of the people around you pressuring you (assuming you didn’t turn into a complete dick head). -You were so cute and we always had to protect you, -since when do you know everything better, – why do you suddenly put yourself so much out there…blablablablabla…
You will find your Tribe. Your connections. I have now friends I treasure in many countries. And I know if I am in the area, all I need to do is to call and I will have a great time.
As if I never left 😉